Making love to myself to get more sexual energy
You can see in my videos that I love to spend time to offer to myself great moments. I love to masturbate for very long moment sensually and with tenderness. Doing that on a regular basis has a direct impact on my capacity to be very sensual with my partners. I see it like going to the gym to strenghten you muscles to better perform when you go hiking.
I love to sit in a relax environment and discover the different pleasures that my body can offer me and to keep my focus on my feelings instead of trying to reach an orgasm.
In this text I will try to expose my thought on the subject and how I do it.
When it comes to making love, most people will think about partnered sex, but you can actually make love to yourself and get high satisfaction almost like if you were engaged sexually with another person. All couples have a gaps about the quantity of sex each partner needs to have to be fully satisfied.
My recommendation #1 is to find ways to give yourself the quantity of pleasure that you cannot get from partner..DO NOT FORGET THAT THE PARTNER IS A FREE PERSON AND DO NOT OWE YOU ANYTHING ABOUT SEX… and putting pressure on partner to get more sex always has a negative effect instead of stimulating it… so up to you to compensate for the needs that are not met with partner.
My recommendation #2… Why don’t you take the time to discover deeply everything that gives you good feelings … it will be easy after that to share it with your partner to teach her or him what you like.
My recommendation #3… Stop focusing exclusively on porn to stimulate you pleasure. Yes porn stimulates your eyes and you imagination, but it has to be renewed to continue to stimulate you. We always need new material, new videos/pictures… and I want to be clear, I am not saying to eliminate porn of your life, but change your mindset when you masturbate. If we take into consideration that the pure and basic pleasure comes from the physical stimulation your body receive, why don’t you focus mainly on it.
Concretely, how can all this be achieved?
One of the best ways to have a great time sexing yourself is to discover what you enjoy and develop you awareness during the moment you take for yourself to discover every source of pleasure.
How I do it personally ? Let me describe you a typical masturbation session for me: Sometimes I will first watch some porn just to get myself aroused, my penis not necessarily fully hard but at least in the mood of being sexually turned on…Then I put lot of lub on my penis and I start to play slowly with my hands to caress my cock, my balls…and then I close my eyes and I transfer my focus from my screen (video/pics) to the feeling of caressing myself. I love the feeling of my penis in my hands and I concentrate on its texture and the softness of the skin…then I slide down one hand to caress my balls softly while the other hand stays on my penis… the idea here being on the pleasure instead of getting to the orgasm as soon as possible. I focus my mind on the different ways I can get my pleasure to rise… My hand that is on my balls will slide gently towards my anus and my fingers will gently caress my perineum…wow! Have you ever explored this region and all the pleasure it offers when you caress it slowly ? I love it and you can see on my videos that this is really intense for me to do that…. While my other hand continues to appreciate rubbing slowly my penis…
I will caress softly my anus and my perineum for a very long moment, appreciating this moment…taking my time, this is my moment…then I will push the tip of my finger just a little bit deeper in my anus…I love this feeling of teasing myself… my other hand will go up and down very slowly on my penis and my glans…the skin is so soft… I look at my penis, I love it… I am feeling so good, I am relax and I start to feel a wave that brings my whole body and mind through this sexual energy that I love… I want this moment to last for ever and the more I keep my focus on the present moment and the wonderful feeling I have, the more my sexual energy is rising up… my whole body feels good, it is not only about my penis pleasure, but every part of my body wants to be touched… my nipples are hard… my anus, my perineum and my balls become highly sensitive and provide me good sensations when my fingers caress them softly and sensually.
The wave of pleasure grows, but I do not want the orgasm to occur now, I try to concentrate on the feeling I have at this very moment instead of trying to reach the ultimate pleasure… I want to stay in control and decide when I will have an orgasm…my objective is to surf on the moment just before the orgasm and do not cross the point of no return… this a magic moment, where you make the pre-orgasm feeling to last for a long moment. I have a lot of precum flowing on my glans… I take the time to taste it, feel the texture on my lips and my tongue… this is so good… I am very good now (after years of practice…) to push even further this moment and let the orgasm happen without completely let it go…I let one or two contraction happen and then I stop it… having this delicious with cream dropping … mmm love to taste and lick this nectar…the pleasure of tasting my cum is also a real turn on… I play with it in my mouth and I feel another good moment rising up … again and again …
Because I control my ejaculation, I never get that post ejaculation moment. I can then have multiple very long moment of intensive pleasure pre-orgasmic and many moment where cum will happen but with full control of myself. This is giving so much sexual energy to do that…
Some will ask “Why controlling the orgasm without let it go completely ?” Answer is very simple: what will choose between having few seconds of intense pleasure with a regular orgasm OR minutes/hours of intense pleasure ? I will choose second one … and I can confirm that this is MUCH more satisfying and intense than simple orgasm.
Benefit #1: The most important benefits of what I have described above will be a greater control of your pleasure when you have sex with a partner. Trust me, all the partners I had were amazingly surprised by the fact that I can make love for so long, stay hard all that time and cum many many times…
Benefit #2: The other main benefit is that your sexual energy will stay very high…
Benefit #3: you will never get frustrated about not being fully satisfied by you partner. As far as I am concerned, I have openly talked with my actual partner about my need to masturbate often and now it happens pretty often that I masturbate slowly beside her when we both go to bed. She can watch me or she can sleep … it is always a big high for me to do that…
About sex toys: Personally, I have a lot of toys, mainly to explore the different sensations they can provide me. I have masturbators like Fleshlight and Autoblow machine, Ion-Arcwave (which is giving unexpected and surprising sensations), anal toys…
Conclusion: What I have described here is only the tip of the iceberg in the sexual things I have discovered. Feel free to ask me questions if you want to learn more about that or if you are simply curious.
I love to sit in a relax environment and discover the different pleasures that my body can offer me and to keep my focus on my feelings instead of trying to reach an orgasm.
In this text I will try to expose my thought on the subject and how I do it.
When it comes to making love, most people will think about partnered sex, but you can actually make love to yourself and get high satisfaction almost like if you were engaged sexually with another person. All couples have a gaps about the quantity of sex each partner needs to have to be fully satisfied.
My recommendation #1 is to find ways to give yourself the quantity of pleasure that you cannot get from partner..DO NOT FORGET THAT THE PARTNER IS A FREE PERSON AND DO NOT OWE YOU ANYTHING ABOUT SEX… and putting pressure on partner to get more sex always has a negative effect instead of stimulating it… so up to you to compensate for the needs that are not met with partner.
My recommendation #2… Why don’t you take the time to discover deeply everything that gives you good feelings … it will be easy after that to share it with your partner to teach her or him what you like.
My recommendation #3… Stop focusing exclusively on porn to stimulate you pleasure. Yes porn stimulates your eyes and you imagination, but it has to be renewed to continue to stimulate you. We always need new material, new videos/pictures… and I want to be clear, I am not saying to eliminate porn of your life, but change your mindset when you masturbate. If we take into consideration that the pure and basic pleasure comes from the physical stimulation your body receive, why don’t you focus mainly on it.
Concretely, how can all this be achieved?
One of the best ways to have a great time sexing yourself is to discover what you enjoy and develop you awareness during the moment you take for yourself to discover every source of pleasure.
How I do it personally ? Let me describe you a typical masturbation session for me: Sometimes I will first watch some porn just to get myself aroused, my penis not necessarily fully hard but at least in the mood of being sexually turned on…Then I put lot of lub on my penis and I start to play slowly with my hands to caress my cock, my balls…and then I close my eyes and I transfer my focus from my screen (video/pics) to the feeling of caressing myself. I love the feeling of my penis in my hands and I concentrate on its texture and the softness of the skin…then I slide down one hand to caress my balls softly while the other hand stays on my penis… the idea here being on the pleasure instead of getting to the orgasm as soon as possible. I focus my mind on the different ways I can get my pleasure to rise… My hand that is on my balls will slide gently towards my anus and my fingers will gently caress my perineum…wow! Have you ever explored this region and all the pleasure it offers when you caress it slowly ? I love it and you can see on my videos that this is really intense for me to do that…. While my other hand continues to appreciate rubbing slowly my penis…
I will caress softly my anus and my perineum for a very long moment, appreciating this moment…taking my time, this is my moment…then I will push the tip of my finger just a little bit deeper in my anus…I love this feeling of teasing myself… my other hand will go up and down very slowly on my penis and my glans…the skin is so soft… I look at my penis, I love it… I am feeling so good, I am relax and I start to feel a wave that brings my whole body and mind through this sexual energy that I love… I want this moment to last for ever and the more I keep my focus on the present moment and the wonderful feeling I have, the more my sexual energy is rising up… my whole body feels good, it is not only about my penis pleasure, but every part of my body wants to be touched… my nipples are hard… my anus, my perineum and my balls become highly sensitive and provide me good sensations when my fingers caress them softly and sensually.
The wave of pleasure grows, but I do not want the orgasm to occur now, I try to concentrate on the feeling I have at this very moment instead of trying to reach the ultimate pleasure… I want to stay in control and decide when I will have an orgasm…my objective is to surf on the moment just before the orgasm and do not cross the point of no return… this a magic moment, where you make the pre-orgasm feeling to last for a long moment. I have a lot of precum flowing on my glans… I take the time to taste it, feel the texture on my lips and my tongue… this is so good… I am very good now (after years of practice…) to push even further this moment and let the orgasm happen without completely let it go…I let one or two contraction happen and then I stop it… having this delicious with cream dropping … mmm love to taste and lick this nectar…the pleasure of tasting my cum is also a real turn on… I play with it in my mouth and I feel another good moment rising up … again and again …
Because I control my ejaculation, I never get that post ejaculation moment. I can then have multiple very long moment of intensive pleasure pre-orgasmic and many moment where cum will happen but with full control of myself. This is giving so much sexual energy to do that…
Some will ask “Why controlling the orgasm without let it go completely ?” Answer is very simple: what will choose between having few seconds of intense pleasure with a regular orgasm OR minutes/hours of intense pleasure ? I will choose second one … and I can confirm that this is MUCH more satisfying and intense than simple orgasm.
Benefit #1: The most important benefits of what I have described above will be a greater control of your pleasure when you have sex with a partner. Trust me, all the partners I had were amazingly surprised by the fact that I can make love for so long, stay hard all that time and cum many many times…
Benefit #2: The other main benefit is that your sexual energy will stay very high…
Benefit #3: you will never get frustrated about not being fully satisfied by you partner. As far as I am concerned, I have openly talked with my actual partner about my need to masturbate often and now it happens pretty often that I masturbate slowly beside her when we both go to bed. She can watch me or she can sleep … it is always a big high for me to do that…
About sex toys: Personally, I have a lot of toys, mainly to explore the different sensations they can provide me. I have masturbators like Fleshlight and Autoblow machine, Ion-Arcwave (which is giving unexpected and surprising sensations), anal toys…
Conclusion: What I have described here is only the tip of the iceberg in the sexual things I have discovered. Feel free to ask me questions if you want to learn more about that or if you are simply curious.
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