Sharing: What does it mean to be a sissy?

Sissies are a distinct breed of transvestites. A sissy is a transvestite who’s primary sexual interest lies not just in wearing feminine clothing, but in becoming an exaggerated (well, for me, not really a totally exaggerated, more like natural) version of femininity. Femininity as seen through the lens of traditional hetero male sexual desire. Sissies are not seeking to become women in a normal sense, but are instead seeking to become the object of their desires. Their ultimate fantasy woman if they were normal, rather than being a sissy.

Sissies are transvestites who can’t be sated by just throwing on some panties and jerking off. They must strive to become their ideal female. This means the fetish will transcend the bedroom, and creep into the rest of their life. A full wardrobe, makeup, wigs, etc. Sissies will spend more time looking at women’s outfits than they will be looking at the women wearing them. Sissies keep their body hair shaved, likely wear panties (or more!) at all times, nail polish on their toes, etc. Being a sissy takes commitment and dedication.

This part does not really apply to me, I'm not "bi" or even slightly interested in men, however this may very well be applicable to some if not many others. Sissies are bisexual, but not in the traditional sense. You aren’t going to see a sissy settle down and marry a man. You won’t find many that will say they find men attractive (definitely not me). Remember, a sissy seeks to become the embodiment of what their dream woman would be. As such, their interest in pleasing men is distinct from that of homosexual men. Their interest in men comes from seeking validation that they have achieved their sissy goal: being feminine enough to interest “straight” men. They aren’t into the men themselves as much as the men are sex objects that a sissy uses to confirm her own sissyness.

Sissies are submissive. You can be a crossdresser who makes an effort to look the part and not be submissive, but that means you are not a sissy. A sissy gets off on pleasing others. She doesn’t worry about herself or her pleasure nearly as much. This is where you see chastity and cuckolding come into play for a lot of sisses. Chastity is sought because it allows a sissy to stay horny, giving them the drive to further their sissy desires (rather than losing them after orgasm). Cuckolding is natural because if a sissy is going to have a wife or girlfriend (remember, sissies aren’t typically into men romantically), by her nature a sissy is unlikely going to be able to be much of a man when it comes to sex. As such, not only is the woman more likely to look elsewhere for those needs, the sissy herself shouldn’t mind. Her wife isn’t cheating on the sissy with “another man”, but is having sex with “a man”. The sissy isn’t a man anymore, so why should she be jealous that her wife needs a man from time to time? If anything, the sissy can relate. She needs a man sometimes too! Again, there are certain elements of this that applies to me, others, not so much, we can talk about if you like, please, Ladies!

Sadly, the term sissy tends to be overused these days. Guys with thick body hair showing off their one pair of panties, or ones where their small wardrobe is a mishmash of mismatched clothes that no woman would ever wear, these sorts are all using the term sissy. Guess what guys? You aren’t a sissy. You may have the mindset, you may be working towards it, but until you get there, you aren’t one. You need to learn fashion, makeup, and you need to work towards looking hot. Instead of doing just enough sissy stuff to get your cock hard, you need to focus on doing enough to get someone else’s cock hard. In a world of pantyboys, you need to rise above. You need to embrace what it means to truly be a sissy and dedicate yourself to it.