Feminist Porn
This is a great little forum that isn't dominated by guys and is more friendly toward women. It's called "puckerup.com." From what I can tell, the site is dedicated to an open discussion of everything sexual without the stereotypical restraints espoused by many early feminists, and without the openly anti-women attitude so often found on predominately male websites, such as xhamster. Though the forum is called "feminist," what I have seen is that it inviting to people of all genders. Here is just one example of a page I found about anal sex over there:
http://puckerup.com/tag/ass-to-mouth/
As you can see, the page is of an extreme nature, though it does not carry the hostile tone I find on male-dominated sites. Here is another page concerning "rough sex."
http://puckerup.com/2012/10/03/ask-the-intern-hardcore-porn-for-women/
The way the description is written, I would not be overly surprised if the film I complained about a few weeks ago on xhamster was in there. Though I still find the content in the movie I complained about to be extremely disagreeable, the primary reason I opposed it was not necessarily the content itself (although it really was a fucked up film), but the context under which it was released. Puckerup and xhamster are two different worlds in this regard. The same film released to one site will generate a different impact upon the viewer than if it was released upon another.
I've always been uneasy with the BDSM issue here on xhamster, as I've found that too many, though not all, of the male users who like that sort of thing really do want to dominate and control women as depicted in such porn. Many of them tend to be rather intelligent, but very emotionally juvenile, and my view is that encouraging their domination fantasies with hardcore BDSM porn is dangerous. Many of the comments I have seen on videos like the one I complained about revolve around women "getting what they deserve," or having men "taking what's rightfully theirs" and stupid moronic shit like that. The videos generate comments about wishing to beat, torture, ****, and k**nap women. They devalue women in general, and these extreme videos on xhamster just feed their distorted conception of women as human beings.
But that is on xhamster. Because the membership on here is overwhelmingly male, women are almost instantly reduced to sexual objects. On puckerup.com, my initial impression is that all genders are treated with respect. There is not a mentality that all women are meant to be sex objects, but rather, all women have the right to slip in and out of the role of sex-object as desired. And that view is extended to men, transgendered people, and everyone really. Basically the HUMANITY of the people involved in whatever is discussed over there is not lost.
This is a huge difference in my view.
Everyone who has gotten to know me a little through xhamster knows that I like things.... unconventional. Xhamster has been wonderful to me with regards to opening up about my sexual fantasies and all of that. But my early experience upon this site quickly and painfully showed me the limits of what it means to be an openly-sexual woman upon a male-dominated porn site. I quickly learned just how many men regarded me as inferior (no matter what I said, or wrote, or did) just by virtue of my gender. Some of the men I've dealt with treat me like I'm a fucking c***d. I've met a few guys whose entire purpose on xhamster was to take advantage of me and emotionally hurt me as much as possible. I mean... just absolutely sick fucking people. This site just taps into the sadist in people sometimes I think. And I think it does it because there are so very few of us to offer a countervailing force to the inherent objectification found in most porn films.
Anyway, Xhamster has its merits, though I think in terms of a forum for sex, Puckerup might be a safer a place to explore some of my more extreme fantasies. A person's humanity is not lost over there, it is not hostile toward men, and it isn't vanilla by any means.
And here is a good discussion of women and porn by the author of Puckerup. Click on the second video. It's a little long, but they have a very good, candid, and intelligent discussion about this issue:
http://puckerup.com/media/media-reels/
http://puckerup.com/tag/ass-to-mouth/
As you can see, the page is of an extreme nature, though it does not carry the hostile tone I find on male-dominated sites. Here is another page concerning "rough sex."
http://puckerup.com/2012/10/03/ask-the-intern-hardcore-porn-for-women/
The way the description is written, I would not be overly surprised if the film I complained about a few weeks ago on xhamster was in there. Though I still find the content in the movie I complained about to be extremely disagreeable, the primary reason I opposed it was not necessarily the content itself (although it really was a fucked up film), but the context under which it was released. Puckerup and xhamster are two different worlds in this regard. The same film released to one site will generate a different impact upon the viewer than if it was released upon another.
I've always been uneasy with the BDSM issue here on xhamster, as I've found that too many, though not all, of the male users who like that sort of thing really do want to dominate and control women as depicted in such porn. Many of them tend to be rather intelligent, but very emotionally juvenile, and my view is that encouraging their domination fantasies with hardcore BDSM porn is dangerous. Many of the comments I have seen on videos like the one I complained about revolve around women "getting what they deserve," or having men "taking what's rightfully theirs" and stupid moronic shit like that. The videos generate comments about wishing to beat, torture, ****, and k**nap women. They devalue women in general, and these extreme videos on xhamster just feed their distorted conception of women as human beings.
But that is on xhamster. Because the membership on here is overwhelmingly male, women are almost instantly reduced to sexual objects. On puckerup.com, my initial impression is that all genders are treated with respect. There is not a mentality that all women are meant to be sex objects, but rather, all women have the right to slip in and out of the role of sex-object as desired. And that view is extended to men, transgendered people, and everyone really. Basically the HUMANITY of the people involved in whatever is discussed over there is not lost.
This is a huge difference in my view.
Everyone who has gotten to know me a little through xhamster knows that I like things.... unconventional. Xhamster has been wonderful to me with regards to opening up about my sexual fantasies and all of that. But my early experience upon this site quickly and painfully showed me the limits of what it means to be an openly-sexual woman upon a male-dominated porn site. I quickly learned just how many men regarded me as inferior (no matter what I said, or wrote, or did) just by virtue of my gender. Some of the men I've dealt with treat me like I'm a fucking c***d. I've met a few guys whose entire purpose on xhamster was to take advantage of me and emotionally hurt me as much as possible. I mean... just absolutely sick fucking people. This site just taps into the sadist in people sometimes I think. And I think it does it because there are so very few of us to offer a countervailing force to the inherent objectification found in most porn films.
Anyway, Xhamster has its merits, though I think in terms of a forum for sex, Puckerup might be a safer a place to explore some of my more extreme fantasies. A person's humanity is not lost over there, it is not hostile toward men, and it isn't vanilla by any means.
And here is a good discussion of women and porn by the author of Puckerup. Click on the second video. It's a little long, but they have a very good, candid, and intelligent discussion about this issue:
http://puckerup.com/media/media-reels/
12 years ago
