Orgasm Control (Denial and Persistence)
Some boys hit puberty--puberty hit me, and with a vengeance! Almost as soon as I could, I found myself compelled to masturbate any chance I could, up to almost a dozen times a day, if I could find the time. For those who don't know, boys can't cum or ejaculate before puberty, but we do get aroused, and for years before, my young cock produced a lot of clear sexual fluid when I was turned on. Once I was able to, I began producing a lot of sperm. Every time I was aroused, it quickly led to pressure as my body started producing fluid, the classic "blue ball" pain that only a few good, hard squirts could relieve.
Like any boy (and a lot of girls) I began to get myself off with pictures and movies that aroused me, mostly pictures of hot, sexually mature girls (they seemed really mature to me then, but they were probably only 18-20!). It wasn't long before I had control of this new power, but that wasn't enough for me!
I felt compelled to experiment, to discover the limits of this new power in my cock. I began to want to see what would happen stroking off to things that might arouse me, but were harder to orgasm to. In the flesh, all girls fascinated me, their looks, their smell, the occasional touch or laugh I might get out of them. But on paper, girls my age didn't arouse me the way pictures of experienced, full-breasted, round-hipped women in alluring poses did. So clearly, my first experiment was to masturbate to pictures of girls my own age, that I didn't know. There were plenty of pictures like that in advertising directed to my age group. I found arousal came easily, but pushing myself to orgasm was a little bit harder. It didn't just come, the way it did with mature women. I had to focus on something specific about each picture-- the pretty eyes of one, the nipples sticking through the fabric of a bathing suit on another, yet another girl's long, thin arms. It was a discipline, and I worked hard at it! It had surprising benefits-- I began to notice the girls in my classes a bit more, sometimes looking longer in their eyes than the other boys did, finding things to compliment them on, and they enjoyed the attention. Sometimes I'd get aroused and erect, and it was embarrassing. I had no idea that most of those shy, pretty flowers had been jerking their clits to orgasm since they were three!
At this point, I committed to being a mad scientist of sex. Being able to make myself cum even when the object didn't do if for me automatically was a real power. Next came jerking off to pictures of girls I did know. It was a little harder, because it felt creepy in a way, and for those girls I had crushes on (and did want to jerk off to) there was a kind of humiliating surrender to it. But I worked at it. This also had the advantage of making me comfortable getting aroused and still talking to the girls (sometimes it was impossible to talk to a girl when I was aroused, and a lot of boys have this problem all the way into manhood). Some girls even seemed to pick up on it, and I found myself with a few friends I was able to "further my studies" with, in an innocent way, since they were just as curious as I was! I got to watch girls masturbate their pussies or orgasm and even to masturbate a girl with my fingers. I masturbated and let them play with my cock, but never came for them. For some reason I was embarrassed to let go. It would be a little while longer before I was secure enough to masturbate in front of a girl for the first time.
My next experiments involved pictures of boys. I was occasionally aroused by pictures of boys my own age, especially with their shirts off. This was mostly before I was able to ejaculate, and the more involved I got with girls the less these featured in my erotic fantasies. Jerking off to pictures of boys was a different thing. I didn't get quite as aroused immediately, but once I was into the fantasy it, mostly imagining my chest rubbing against the other boy's or what his cock looked like when he jerked it, it was pure pleasure, and the orgasm came full and hard, but after the last drop of cum left me, it felt weird, and I couldn't find any ability to become aroused by this for a day or two after. It was around this time that some of my male friends started jerking off together. For some reason, my experience playing with the girls made me really shy about participating, but eventually I did. It was awkward and embarrassing. I was happy to discover my dick was thicker than most boys, but embarrassed that I pumped out more cum, which seemed wrong somehow. Still it was really fascinating to watch the different ways my friends stroked off, and how different they came. Some jerked and squirted, some slowed down while they were cumming, and one took his hands off and just let it fly. But there was on thing that was consistent to me, an aroused cock just on the edge of orgasm and a cock cumming, was a beautiful, exciting sight! The pussies that I'd seen and touched were beautiful and gently and soft, and I was attracted instinctively, but a stiff purple cock, painfully swollen and throbbing, with veins standing up the length of it, and then seeing it swell even more and erupt, related directly to my own arousal
The next experiment was jacking off to pictures of adult men. This was really hard and usually unsuccessful, but it seemed important to subjugate my sexuality.
This was a kind of weird pattern with a lot of people: Girls were shyer about engaging in sex stuff, but if they were aroused they'd be fully into it, happily touching talking and orgasming. Boys were faster to follow their sexual arousal and get the dick out, but shy in other ways, for example, masturbating together, but not looking at each other's faces, or talking about it, or being cum shy, the way I sometimes was.
But it got really interesting when I started trying to withhold my orgasms. Not "unable to squirt" in the way that it happened from embarrassment, like when I stroked with the girls, but holding back when everything was perfect for pleasure, wrestling with my own desire. I'd stroke to the edge and stop, wait till it subsided and start again. Each time I got closer to "the edge" and the need got more intense, but so did the pleasure. My whole body shook, my balls ached with sperm pressure, and my ability to deny my instinct made me feel SO POWERFUL. Laying there, naked and covered in sweat, my fat purple cock sticking up, slippery with precum, my hips fucking the air and my hands behind my head, for as long as it took for the orgasm to recede to the point I could start the torture all over again. Sometimes i imagined I was a slave being tortured or trained by a cruel owner, sometimes a victim of an evil science experiment. I'd set goals for each experiment session "no less than 6 false starts" or 8 or even 12. I got to where 6-8 were easy, but if my parents came home too soon, I'd have to stop without any release, and that was pushing the experiment too far, to the point of real torture. The pain did not subside if I slept without milking out my cock, and was with me in the morning.
A great experiment, which is really good training for all men, is to take a magazine with some pretty hot pics in it. Start at the beginning and go page by page to the first sexy pic, and masturbate to the edge, then STOP! start leafing to the next one. When you find it, masturbate your cock to the edge and stop again. The goal is to go to the end of the magazine without letting go and coming. If you have the time, make it last for an hour.
After all that arousal, an orgasm can be triggered very easily with a light trigger. If you're into kink and fetish, this is how a sub gets to the point where a purely painful stimulation, like a spank, an electric spark or a piercing, can produce a really powerful orgasm. I once gave myself a mind-blowing orgasm by tapping the ridge of my cock head just a few times. The come must have shot for yards!
The other thing I discovered is that all that arousal and holding back meant when the orgasm came, it came harder. Sometimes i even came twice or more.
They call this kind of activity "Edging" and if you have slightly controlling nature, and a slightly submissive sexmate, spending a few hours keeping them in climax-free arousal is a really beautiful way to enjoy their bodies.
All of this led to my next set of experiments-- how much orgasm could I coax out of my body? If I just needed to jack off, the whole process was pretty fast. But a little buildup or foreplay, gave a longer, harder, better orgasm, and edging for a long time was super-intense. I now allowed my inner slave-master to take control. I'd torment myself to the edge for as much time a I could, then imagine his/her hand taking me firmly while all the other slaves watched, and jerking out a powerful orgasm from me, slowing slightly while squeezing out the last drop, then starting again. The stroking alone was torture on my super-sensitive head, but the goal was another orgasm, and it came quickly, and then another. There was very little sperm after the second or third, but the orgasms kept coming, an each was intensely pleasurable and torture at the same time! By the third, all the muscles were cramping and painful, an I dreaded the next climax, but I forced it out anyway. I could usually do at least half a dozen before the cramps got too severe. By my mid 20s, I could no longer come as many times as I could when I was young, but by then, I was using this knowledge on the people I was having sex with, and they were loving it.
Another weird thing, but useful: if a cock comes completely, and you jerk a second orgasm out of it immediately, it usually stays hard for a good while after that, even if it's too sensitive to touch.
Jump ahead a couple of years, and now I'm using what I learned on people I'm dating. Some are into dominance and submission, others are a little more vanilla, but I always give a lot of foreplay that keeps them getting hotter (sometimes a person just wants a hard, fast fuck, and too much foreplay will just spoil the mood), then getting into the sex, and always slowing when they're about to come. Males can't seem to control their own climax completely, and you can control them directly by how you touch them. A lot of girls, especially very sexually active ones are really good at controlling their orgasm, and you can tell them not to come, and if they're obedient, they'll be able to withhold, no matter how torturous it is. Of course, they won't control it, if there's not something in it for them. For ordinary sex, working her to the edge and telling her, "I'm really close, don't come yet!" and making her hold it for as long as you think she can. If you can repeat that for a few times then command her to come, she's going to come harder than she;s ever come before. If you're in an BDSM relationship obeying your commands is part of the game. And if you'd like to get her or him into a BDSM groove, orgasm control is a great way to introduce them.
You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, but if they've ever been a little curious this will help them get into it. If you don't know if they're curious, and they're really not having a very good time, STOP, and do something they'll like instead.
And like I said before, when someone is so sexually charged, and they need to come really hard, any strong stimulus can trigger that much-needed release (if you're careful to make it much needed), you can introduce all kinds of new sexual experiences to them. Not only will they be more open to it than they would if you just talked to them, but if they do it, they'll climax, and a very powerful pleasure response will be a part of it, making it something they'll enjoy. like what?
Blowjobs--- male or female, some people just love it, but some people are scared. It may be they're male and are scared of the stigma, it may be they're female but their first experience was bad. Be careful to go slow so thy feel they have control, and warn them before you come (give them the option to not swallow, and they'll probably volunteer to swallow the next time). If they are really on the edge of coming, and this is all they have to do, not only will they enjoy it but they may come while doing it, and that's always a good thing.
3-somes--- Weirdly, fooling around with one girl can get another so charged up she'll want to join in, especially if she's a little jealous or bi-curious.
Bisex--- if everybody's already in the same room and horned up, it's a natural. But if you're trying to get your girlfriend to eat a pussy, or your boy to suck a dick*, just start fantasizing about it with them while you're having sex and getting them "on edge" and they'll be much more open to it. When you actually get them that bisex partner, be sure they're so horned up for their virgin experience they can't help but have a great sexual experience. They may well have emotional conflicts the next day, so be supportive.
* or get your lesbian girlfriend to take a cock, or your gay boyfriend to fuck a pussy.
Bisexualization--- If their first bi experience goes well, and you think it would be healthy for them to continue exploring, combine support with sexual intensity. If they don't want it, back off.
BDSM--- discussed before. It's a natural progression, and people often get into BDSM to get that high-intensity control/out of control sexual explosion.
Just enjoying the way their body responds to extended stimulation and frustration. It's just beautiful to watch and a great feeling to give someone.
Some people enjoy it so much, they go for extended denial. There are all kinds of restraints to stop penises and clits from being able to be stimulated. A cock can be locked up quite easily with a temporary cage over the head, or a complete chastity device on the whole cock, which doesn't even permit erections, and there are devices that allow erections, but make them painful. A man can be contained to come only on permission, maybe once a month, or at the whims of his designated master.
Long-term denial of a woman is more complicated, but really worth it to some women.
It's easy enough to close off the entrance to the vagina with a few piercings (you still need to allow it to open for fluids to come out). But the clit also has to be restrained. Some women have the hood pulled over and pierced closed, while others have metal hood, called a clit shield, mounted over the clit with piercings, to aid in long term denial ( a lot shield can also help a woman train herself to have better vaginal orgasms is she doesn't close up her pussy).
I posted a photo gallery with some interesting orgasm restraints for man and women.
Like any boy (and a lot of girls) I began to get myself off with pictures and movies that aroused me, mostly pictures of hot, sexually mature girls (they seemed really mature to me then, but they were probably only 18-20!). It wasn't long before I had control of this new power, but that wasn't enough for me!
I felt compelled to experiment, to discover the limits of this new power in my cock. I began to want to see what would happen stroking off to things that might arouse me, but were harder to orgasm to. In the flesh, all girls fascinated me, their looks, their smell, the occasional touch or laugh I might get out of them. But on paper, girls my age didn't arouse me the way pictures of experienced, full-breasted, round-hipped women in alluring poses did. So clearly, my first experiment was to masturbate to pictures of girls my own age, that I didn't know. There were plenty of pictures like that in advertising directed to my age group. I found arousal came easily, but pushing myself to orgasm was a little bit harder. It didn't just come, the way it did with mature women. I had to focus on something specific about each picture-- the pretty eyes of one, the nipples sticking through the fabric of a bathing suit on another, yet another girl's long, thin arms. It was a discipline, and I worked hard at it! It had surprising benefits-- I began to notice the girls in my classes a bit more, sometimes looking longer in their eyes than the other boys did, finding things to compliment them on, and they enjoyed the attention. Sometimes I'd get aroused and erect, and it was embarrassing. I had no idea that most of those shy, pretty flowers had been jerking their clits to orgasm since they were three!
At this point, I committed to being a mad scientist of sex. Being able to make myself cum even when the object didn't do if for me automatically was a real power. Next came jerking off to pictures of girls I did know. It was a little harder, because it felt creepy in a way, and for those girls I had crushes on (and did want to jerk off to) there was a kind of humiliating surrender to it. But I worked at it. This also had the advantage of making me comfortable getting aroused and still talking to the girls (sometimes it was impossible to talk to a girl when I was aroused, and a lot of boys have this problem all the way into manhood). Some girls even seemed to pick up on it, and I found myself with a few friends I was able to "further my studies" with, in an innocent way, since they were just as curious as I was! I got to watch girls masturbate their pussies or orgasm and even to masturbate a girl with my fingers. I masturbated and let them play with my cock, but never came for them. For some reason I was embarrassed to let go. It would be a little while longer before I was secure enough to masturbate in front of a girl for the first time.
My next experiments involved pictures of boys. I was occasionally aroused by pictures of boys my own age, especially with their shirts off. This was mostly before I was able to ejaculate, and the more involved I got with girls the less these featured in my erotic fantasies. Jerking off to pictures of boys was a different thing. I didn't get quite as aroused immediately, but once I was into the fantasy it, mostly imagining my chest rubbing against the other boy's or what his cock looked like when he jerked it, it was pure pleasure, and the orgasm came full and hard, but after the last drop of cum left me, it felt weird, and I couldn't find any ability to become aroused by this for a day or two after. It was around this time that some of my male friends started jerking off together. For some reason, my experience playing with the girls made me really shy about participating, but eventually I did. It was awkward and embarrassing. I was happy to discover my dick was thicker than most boys, but embarrassed that I pumped out more cum, which seemed wrong somehow. Still it was really fascinating to watch the different ways my friends stroked off, and how different they came. Some jerked and squirted, some slowed down while they were cumming, and one took his hands off and just let it fly. But there was on thing that was consistent to me, an aroused cock just on the edge of orgasm and a cock cumming, was a beautiful, exciting sight! The pussies that I'd seen and touched were beautiful and gently and soft, and I was attracted instinctively, but a stiff purple cock, painfully swollen and throbbing, with veins standing up the length of it, and then seeing it swell even more and erupt, related directly to my own arousal
The next experiment was jacking off to pictures of adult men. This was really hard and usually unsuccessful, but it seemed important to subjugate my sexuality.
This was a kind of weird pattern with a lot of people: Girls were shyer about engaging in sex stuff, but if they were aroused they'd be fully into it, happily touching talking and orgasming. Boys were faster to follow their sexual arousal and get the dick out, but shy in other ways, for example, masturbating together, but not looking at each other's faces, or talking about it, or being cum shy, the way I sometimes was.
But it got really interesting when I started trying to withhold my orgasms. Not "unable to squirt" in the way that it happened from embarrassment, like when I stroked with the girls, but holding back when everything was perfect for pleasure, wrestling with my own desire. I'd stroke to the edge and stop, wait till it subsided and start again. Each time I got closer to "the edge" and the need got more intense, but so did the pleasure. My whole body shook, my balls ached with sperm pressure, and my ability to deny my instinct made me feel SO POWERFUL. Laying there, naked and covered in sweat, my fat purple cock sticking up, slippery with precum, my hips fucking the air and my hands behind my head, for as long as it took for the orgasm to recede to the point I could start the torture all over again. Sometimes i imagined I was a slave being tortured or trained by a cruel owner, sometimes a victim of an evil science experiment. I'd set goals for each experiment session "no less than 6 false starts" or 8 or even 12. I got to where 6-8 were easy, but if my parents came home too soon, I'd have to stop without any release, and that was pushing the experiment too far, to the point of real torture. The pain did not subside if I slept without milking out my cock, and was with me in the morning.
A great experiment, which is really good training for all men, is to take a magazine with some pretty hot pics in it. Start at the beginning and go page by page to the first sexy pic, and masturbate to the edge, then STOP! start leafing to the next one. When you find it, masturbate your cock to the edge and stop again. The goal is to go to the end of the magazine without letting go and coming. If you have the time, make it last for an hour.
After all that arousal, an orgasm can be triggered very easily with a light trigger. If you're into kink and fetish, this is how a sub gets to the point where a purely painful stimulation, like a spank, an electric spark or a piercing, can produce a really powerful orgasm. I once gave myself a mind-blowing orgasm by tapping the ridge of my cock head just a few times. The come must have shot for yards!
The other thing I discovered is that all that arousal and holding back meant when the orgasm came, it came harder. Sometimes i even came twice or more.
They call this kind of activity "Edging" and if you have slightly controlling nature, and a slightly submissive sexmate, spending a few hours keeping them in climax-free arousal is a really beautiful way to enjoy their bodies.
All of this led to my next set of experiments-- how much orgasm could I coax out of my body? If I just needed to jack off, the whole process was pretty fast. But a little buildup or foreplay, gave a longer, harder, better orgasm, and edging for a long time was super-intense. I now allowed my inner slave-master to take control. I'd torment myself to the edge for as much time a I could, then imagine his/her hand taking me firmly while all the other slaves watched, and jerking out a powerful orgasm from me, slowing slightly while squeezing out the last drop, then starting again. The stroking alone was torture on my super-sensitive head, but the goal was another orgasm, and it came quickly, and then another. There was very little sperm after the second or third, but the orgasms kept coming, an each was intensely pleasurable and torture at the same time! By the third, all the muscles were cramping and painful, an I dreaded the next climax, but I forced it out anyway. I could usually do at least half a dozen before the cramps got too severe. By my mid 20s, I could no longer come as many times as I could when I was young, but by then, I was using this knowledge on the people I was having sex with, and they were loving it.
Another weird thing, but useful: if a cock comes completely, and you jerk a second orgasm out of it immediately, it usually stays hard for a good while after that, even if it's too sensitive to touch.
Jump ahead a couple of years, and now I'm using what I learned on people I'm dating. Some are into dominance and submission, others are a little more vanilla, but I always give a lot of foreplay that keeps them getting hotter (sometimes a person just wants a hard, fast fuck, and too much foreplay will just spoil the mood), then getting into the sex, and always slowing when they're about to come. Males can't seem to control their own climax completely, and you can control them directly by how you touch them. A lot of girls, especially very sexually active ones are really good at controlling their orgasm, and you can tell them not to come, and if they're obedient, they'll be able to withhold, no matter how torturous it is. Of course, they won't control it, if there's not something in it for them. For ordinary sex, working her to the edge and telling her, "I'm really close, don't come yet!" and making her hold it for as long as you think she can. If you can repeat that for a few times then command her to come, she's going to come harder than she;s ever come before. If you're in an BDSM relationship obeying your commands is part of the game. And if you'd like to get her or him into a BDSM groove, orgasm control is a great way to introduce them.
You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, but if they've ever been a little curious this will help them get into it. If you don't know if they're curious, and they're really not having a very good time, STOP, and do something they'll like instead.
And like I said before, when someone is so sexually charged, and they need to come really hard, any strong stimulus can trigger that much-needed release (if you're careful to make it much needed), you can introduce all kinds of new sexual experiences to them. Not only will they be more open to it than they would if you just talked to them, but if they do it, they'll climax, and a very powerful pleasure response will be a part of it, making it something they'll enjoy. like what?
Blowjobs--- male or female, some people just love it, but some people are scared. It may be they're male and are scared of the stigma, it may be they're female but their first experience was bad. Be careful to go slow so thy feel they have control, and warn them before you come (give them the option to not swallow, and they'll probably volunteer to swallow the next time). If they are really on the edge of coming, and this is all they have to do, not only will they enjoy it but they may come while doing it, and that's always a good thing.
3-somes--- Weirdly, fooling around with one girl can get another so charged up she'll want to join in, especially if she's a little jealous or bi-curious.
Bisex--- if everybody's already in the same room and horned up, it's a natural. But if you're trying to get your girlfriend to eat a pussy, or your boy to suck a dick*, just start fantasizing about it with them while you're having sex and getting them "on edge" and they'll be much more open to it. When you actually get them that bisex partner, be sure they're so horned up for their virgin experience they can't help but have a great sexual experience. They may well have emotional conflicts the next day, so be supportive.
* or get your lesbian girlfriend to take a cock, or your gay boyfriend to fuck a pussy.
Bisexualization--- If their first bi experience goes well, and you think it would be healthy for them to continue exploring, combine support with sexual intensity. If they don't want it, back off.
BDSM--- discussed before. It's a natural progression, and people often get into BDSM to get that high-intensity control/out of control sexual explosion.
Just enjoying the way their body responds to extended stimulation and frustration. It's just beautiful to watch and a great feeling to give someone.
Some people enjoy it so much, they go for extended denial. There are all kinds of restraints to stop penises and clits from being able to be stimulated. A cock can be locked up quite easily with a temporary cage over the head, or a complete chastity device on the whole cock, which doesn't even permit erections, and there are devices that allow erections, but make them painful. A man can be contained to come only on permission, maybe once a month, or at the whims of his designated master.
Long-term denial of a woman is more complicated, but really worth it to some women.
It's easy enough to close off the entrance to the vagina with a few piercings (you still need to allow it to open for fluids to come out). But the clit also has to be restrained. Some women have the hood pulled over and pierced closed, while others have metal hood, called a clit shield, mounted over the clit with piercings, to aid in long term denial ( a lot shield can also help a woman train herself to have better vaginal orgasms is she doesn't close up her pussy).
I posted a photo gallery with some interesting orgasm restraints for man and women.
9 years ago