Orgasm Control Devices
Following up on my last blog post about the joys of orgasm control, I had a chat with someone who has practiced long term orgasm training with both men and women. I posted a little gallery with my lasy blog post, of pix of chastity devices, and they left me with a few questions, so I asked my expert.The male devices seemed pretty simple -- if you want to keep a male in frustration, just find a way to isolate the head of his cock, and he's effectively neutered. But I wondered about the women. A woman's entire body is a sex organ when it's manipulated properly, and I know I've caused orgasms by nipple play, spanking, massage, kissing, mouth fisting, caning the breasts and thighs, which is pretty rough, and even gently stroking a girl's inner wrists (in public)-- none of which involved the genitals, but all of which produced profound orgasms.
The Expert told me that when you lock up someone's sex organs, male or female, it instantly causes their arousal levels to rise, even without any other erotic stimulation.Their entire body becomes more sensitive and responsive. mouth, nipples and anus all become more responsive and sexualized, which is nice if your submissive is otherwise resistant or unresponsive in those areas. If you keep them stimulated and don't allow orgasm, those parts will become more prominently involved in everyday sexplay.
Males
There are two ways to lock up a man's sexuality-- caging his cock so he can't receive the needed stimulation to come, and restricting his erection so he can't fuck or masturbate, and sometimes so he can't even get an erection.
In the first scenario, the penis isolation is total and he just can't have a penile orgasm. With a penis totally negated, if he's kept frustrated, he can be trained to enjoy all kinds of oral, nipple and anal pleasure that he'd otherwise be inhibited from accepting. She says most men can't come from nipple play, but can certainly be trained to come from anal stimulation (rimming or vibing) or from being fucked (although a long cock or dildo will pound his prostate and the inner erectile tissue, so it's indirectly stimulating the nerves that lead to the cockhead). The orgasm and ejaculation takes much longer, but is usually more intense.
In the second scenario, the cock might be encased in a leather pouch or a metal ball or cage, a bent tube might be fitted to his cockshaft, or piercings might be used to attach the penis shaft to the scrotum so that he can no longer achieve a straight, free erection. He completely looses the ability to fuck until unlocked (or forever), but his cockhead is still accessible, and he can be masturbated with a vibrator, or learn to rub it like rubbing a pussy to orgasm.
The first method completely negates and controls his sexual response, the second is more about negating his masculinity.
Here's a really interesting thing about locking up a man's penis -- after a few days or weeks of being unable to have a free erection (the experience is usually extremely painful and frustrating in the device), he begins to lose the need or ability to become erect. The isolation will cause the glans (cockhead) to become extremely sensitive (when it's finally unlocked), and most interesting of all, With long term use, the penis will actually shrink! If you wondered why some of those male devices are so small it's because some long-term users, or their masters, take pride in getting increasingly smaller restraints as the penis shrinks. I hope you can stretch is back out when you're done!
Females
Apparently, stopping a woman or a girl from orgasming is a 24 hour job! If you look at some of these devices, you can see that even a woman trying to restrain herself has a tough fight.
The most obvious chastity restraint that comes to mind (my mind anyway) is, like the old joke says, just sewing it shut. In fact, that's very popular, and something a lot of women fantasize about. And it certainly stops one avenue of orgasm, but you can't sew, or pierce it up for long periods of time, because a woman has to pee, allow her period out, and have access for hygenic reasons. So long-term vaginal chastity solutions usually involve piercings to make the pussy inaccessible to penile penetration and cock-like toys, but fingers can usually still get in.
And then there's that pesky clitoris. Th clit hood and skin around it can be pulled over and held in place with piercings, but it's still sensitive enough that a persistent girl can masturbate it through all of those precautions. A girl can be fitted with a chastity belt or clit shield. Both of those isolate the offending button pretty well, but vibration and pressure can still sometimes get through. So keeping a girl orgasm-free involves both genital restraining devices and strict supervision.
But once you've taken away a female's capacity to orgasm, like the male, the rest of her body becomes more responsive, and non-genital orgasms become a real possibility. At the same time her body is becoming more responsive, she may also develop a greater capacity for, and enjoyment of, pain. Women also change their sexual behaviors much more quickly when the usual avenues of sexual satisfaction no longer exist. A person who's in extended orgasmic denial can be led into sexual behaviours they would never normally do, including groups, BDSM, bisexuality (although, in my experience, many people who are into submission seem to be bi curious). So while a heterosexual of either gender may offer the same initial resistance to getting relief by engaging in a homosexual act, hetero women are more willing consider their sexual preference "changed". Straight men, some gay men, and butch lesbians can all be induced into bisexual or other-sexual acts, but resist accepting the pleasure that results as having "changed" them. (That's what she told me. I don't know if I believe this. I've had sexual relationships with lesbians and they're still lesbians, just lesbians who like dick. Similarly, I've sucked my share of cock, but I'm straight-leaning bisexual, not gay).
And here's the really interesting thing about locking up a woman's vagina: just as the boy's penis will shrink from isolation, a woman's vaginal canal will tighten up! So I suppose if you have virgin fantasies, or you're afraid your lesbian love isn't as gay as she says, a few months with her cunt pierced shut will render her a difficult fuck for a guy. (I don't know if her clit will shrink from a clit shield, though).
Testing
How do you know if your submissive boy or girl is really suffering the torments of hell in their pants, or they've found a way to discretely release all that tension you're working so hard to bottle up? Man: massage, squeeze or vibrate his balls. They should be unusually sensitive and sore. There are also places on his body on either side of the base of the penis shaft, over the vas defrons, that become swollen, and painful when you press down on them. Woman: there's a kind of swelling in her lower belly where her uterus is. It becomes engorged and doesn't shrink easily unless release by orgasm. Pressing down with the thumbs or heel of the hand just above the pelvic bone (a few inches below her belly button) ought to produce a "blue balls" pain.
see the gallery: http://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/6629806/orgasm_control_denial_and_persistence.html
The Expert told me that when you lock up someone's sex organs, male or female, it instantly causes their arousal levels to rise, even without any other erotic stimulation.Their entire body becomes more sensitive and responsive. mouth, nipples and anus all become more responsive and sexualized, which is nice if your submissive is otherwise resistant or unresponsive in those areas. If you keep them stimulated and don't allow orgasm, those parts will become more prominently involved in everyday sexplay.
Males
There are two ways to lock up a man's sexuality-- caging his cock so he can't receive the needed stimulation to come, and restricting his erection so he can't fuck or masturbate, and sometimes so he can't even get an erection.
In the first scenario, the penis isolation is total and he just can't have a penile orgasm. With a penis totally negated, if he's kept frustrated, he can be trained to enjoy all kinds of oral, nipple and anal pleasure that he'd otherwise be inhibited from accepting. She says most men can't come from nipple play, but can certainly be trained to come from anal stimulation (rimming or vibing) or from being fucked (although a long cock or dildo will pound his prostate and the inner erectile tissue, so it's indirectly stimulating the nerves that lead to the cockhead). The orgasm and ejaculation takes much longer, but is usually more intense.
In the second scenario, the cock might be encased in a leather pouch or a metal ball or cage, a bent tube might be fitted to his cockshaft, or piercings might be used to attach the penis shaft to the scrotum so that he can no longer achieve a straight, free erection. He completely looses the ability to fuck until unlocked (or forever), but his cockhead is still accessible, and he can be masturbated with a vibrator, or learn to rub it like rubbing a pussy to orgasm.
The first method completely negates and controls his sexual response, the second is more about negating his masculinity.
Here's a really interesting thing about locking up a man's penis -- after a few days or weeks of being unable to have a free erection (the experience is usually extremely painful and frustrating in the device), he begins to lose the need or ability to become erect. The isolation will cause the glans (cockhead) to become extremely sensitive (when it's finally unlocked), and most interesting of all, With long term use, the penis will actually shrink! If you wondered why some of those male devices are so small it's because some long-term users, or their masters, take pride in getting increasingly smaller restraints as the penis shrinks. I hope you can stretch is back out when you're done!
Females
Apparently, stopping a woman or a girl from orgasming is a 24 hour job! If you look at some of these devices, you can see that even a woman trying to restrain herself has a tough fight.
The most obvious chastity restraint that comes to mind (my mind anyway) is, like the old joke says, just sewing it shut. In fact, that's very popular, and something a lot of women fantasize about. And it certainly stops one avenue of orgasm, but you can't sew, or pierce it up for long periods of time, because a woman has to pee, allow her period out, and have access for hygenic reasons. So long-term vaginal chastity solutions usually involve piercings to make the pussy inaccessible to penile penetration and cock-like toys, but fingers can usually still get in.
And then there's that pesky clitoris. Th clit hood and skin around it can be pulled over and held in place with piercings, but it's still sensitive enough that a persistent girl can masturbate it through all of those precautions. A girl can be fitted with a chastity belt or clit shield. Both of those isolate the offending button pretty well, but vibration and pressure can still sometimes get through. So keeping a girl orgasm-free involves both genital restraining devices and strict supervision.
But once you've taken away a female's capacity to orgasm, like the male, the rest of her body becomes more responsive, and non-genital orgasms become a real possibility. At the same time her body is becoming more responsive, she may also develop a greater capacity for, and enjoyment of, pain. Women also change their sexual behaviors much more quickly when the usual avenues of sexual satisfaction no longer exist. A person who's in extended orgasmic denial can be led into sexual behaviours they would never normally do, including groups, BDSM, bisexuality (although, in my experience, many people who are into submission seem to be bi curious). So while a heterosexual of either gender may offer the same initial resistance to getting relief by engaging in a homosexual act, hetero women are more willing consider their sexual preference "changed". Straight men, some gay men, and butch lesbians can all be induced into bisexual or other-sexual acts, but resist accepting the pleasure that results as having "changed" them. (That's what she told me. I don't know if I believe this. I've had sexual relationships with lesbians and they're still lesbians, just lesbians who like dick. Similarly, I've sucked my share of cock, but I'm straight-leaning bisexual, not gay).
And here's the really interesting thing about locking up a woman's vagina: just as the boy's penis will shrink from isolation, a woman's vaginal canal will tighten up! So I suppose if you have virgin fantasies, or you're afraid your lesbian love isn't as gay as she says, a few months with her cunt pierced shut will render her a difficult fuck for a guy. (I don't know if her clit will shrink from a clit shield, though).
Testing
How do you know if your submissive boy or girl is really suffering the torments of hell in their pants, or they've found a way to discretely release all that tension you're working so hard to bottle up? Man: massage, squeeze or vibrate his balls. They should be unusually sensitive and sore. There are also places on his body on either side of the base of the penis shaft, over the vas defrons, that become swollen, and painful when you press down on them. Woman: there's a kind of swelling in her lower belly where her uterus is. It becomes engorged and doesn't shrink easily unless release by orgasm. Pressing down with the thumbs or heel of the hand just above the pelvic bone (a few inches below her belly button) ought to produce a "blue balls" pain.
see the gallery: http://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/6629806/orgasm_control_denial_and_persistence.html
8 years ago