Shades of grey from a different point of view

8 years ago

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My female friends were going on about 50 Shades. I read it and thought it was terrible. I thought Christian Grey was an arsehole. It was written by a woman who into S&M. I was speaking to a friend who's a psychologist and has met people who are into S&M. He told me that if 50 Shades of real, Christian Grey would be the passive one in the bedroom and want to be dominated by a woman. A lot of powerful people who are in control of their lives and have a lot of responsibilty tend to like the ones who want to be dominated.

lesdom 8 years ago

Agree with you, Jana.

kathy2012 8 years ago

50 shades is mind porn for weak males, who fantasize dominating women!

Jana-chen Publisher 8 years ago

to Chloyd : D/s..... realtions... are true D/s realtionships.... runs only in one way.... In trust and Love.... BDSM is not a competion... of who is stronger.... and who is in the position to dictate... contrare... Submission is a gift..... and to received in Honor and in all proud.... in all trust and Love..... pity that many peopLES in this scene have complety wrong imaginations about... and experience how things running.... and great playground for perverts.... and phatetics.... idiots.....

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Jana-chen Publisher 8 years ago

to curiosityalive : Males have to accept... and Respect.... when a women says... *NO*.... that is a *NO*... and not a *maybe*.... or a *YES*.... i have the same experiences like you.... with some friends in my Social environment, women they are raped... they are beaten up from her own friends or husbands... so far, that they have to visit Hospitals.. and what was the result of all?.... when i asking for.... to report by Police?... or to be supportive in the way they comes in distance from such horrible subjects?..... They goes back.... like a Beating dog.... without to speaks any word, about this happens.... contrare... they comes angry with me... and told me....* look for your own business... you understand nothing*.... Evil is a human trait.... true and to see everytime and on every place on this planet...... Jana :))xxx

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Chloyd 8 years ago

to Jana-chen : The Dominate and the Submissive are roles that must be equal to match...It's when anger is allowed to be given presence that the relationship fails...Being Dominate doesn't mean one is the Lord or Lady in every aspect...The satisfaction of the relationship demands this..My loss still remains..true, lesson learned....We continue to progress in the now...

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curiosityalive 8 years ago

Some females love the subordination. Some males love to bully and dominate. Some females decide that this not what they actually wanted. Some males then say, You will do as I say. They hurt, mutilate and damage the very woman that gave her submission..........but not to violate and damage their bodies to a state when it looks as if a war has taken place. I have treated women in this state. I only want to castrate the bullying cowards that allowed themselves to become almost murderers. The thing that shocks me most is that these same women feel that it is safer to return to someone that shows them attention and supposed love. The boundary between BDSM and torture of the most sadistic kind is a fine line. Books such as 50 shades are a romanticisation of a reality that in some cases defies humanity. It is the degradation and damaging of a human by another human. Animals? No, They are honest and follow their nurture. Evil is a human trait. Alison xxx

Jana-chen Publisher 8 years ago

to n2oral : For me that is to see in the generally.... realation between male and women... not only in the meaning of BDSM..... that is only a good example for.... how so many times.... males act with women....

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Jana-chen Publisher 8 years ago

to Chloyd : This post Sam.... is only a Symbole or an example for.... how things lot of times runs between women and males... in realtionships... interactions between the different gender.... That is not only in the meaning of BDSM.... more generally... to see... and it shows... we all can see things from different points of view.... and from different sides... and different thoughts... Still too many males are living in the wrong imagination.... *I`m the stronger gender... so i have the right, to dictate you MY WILL and what I WANT... i can orders and command you... and you will love it, when you had experienced*.... We are EQUAL.... and WE are so different in all our emotions and feelings.... and what maybe for a male is arousing.... is very humiliating and degrading for me.... or for women generally.... I´m sorry for your lost.... sometimes we win... sometimes we learn.... Sam.....

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Chloyd 8 years ago

Someone agrees with me over that silly novel. I never understood why it was so popular, particularly amongst women...(Supposedly). I may post some videos with BDSM, but that's not the same as Stalker trash...I just know there's a few in my circle who do like those sorts of scenes, so I provide. I don't think that I'd ever likely be a participant in such....But in all honesty, I once approached the very first cell in the opening here...I was deeply ashamed afterwards, but apologies never heal something like it...A lost relationship was it's product, my great loss...

n2oral 8 years ago

I don't really understand domination. I've had women want me to humiliate them, and couldn't. Even spanking them goes against my idea of how to treat women. Hard fucking is ok, so is spontaneous sex - if both parties are willing. But degradation repells me. Call me vanilla but that's how I see it - joy and giggles but not whimpers and tears.