Too much or not enough?

This past weekend I was enjoying a set of revolving fantasies. I also spent a fair amount of time experimenting. I haven't had any real fetish experience with a partner so realization that I feel differently about things usually comes slowly. Suffice to say I am sore from my solo bdsm play and yet I am feeling somewhat unsatisfied. Since I have a strong exhibitionist streak solo time doesn't always do it for me. Last night however I fell asleep with aching and stinging and yet I found that enjoyable too. This has made me think seriously about how a long term bdsm relationship would be for me...