Tops: a Bottom's Perspective
I want to share my thoughts - my perspective - on tops, as a bottom. And of course, when I talk of tops and bottoms, I am referring to gay sexual relations between two men.
Now, from a simplistic viewpoint, some may say that when two men are having sex, because they are of the same gender, they are 'the same'. But reality is far removed from this viewpoint, because in reality there will be a top and a bottom, and these two roles are (very) distinct from each other.
So as a bottom, I want to share my thoughts on tops, and the roles of both tops and bottoms.
The first thing to say is that tops are sexually superior to bottoms, without exception. And whatever differences there are between the two men - age, body type, position in society, etc. - are irrelevant. Whilst the two men are having sex, the top is superior. For example, a boss may be having sex after work with one of his male members of staff, who he has been giving orders to and been generally superior to all day in the office/factory/workshop/etc. That superiority ends, and reverses, the moment that sexual relations begin, if the staff member has assumed the top role during sex. Whilst the two are having sex, the staff member is superior and in charge, before previous order is restored once intercourse has ended.
This superiority of tops is crucially important, because for me as a bottom, it governs completely my manner and the way I act when a top is making love to me. It means that from the point we begin to touch and kiss one another (or even before then, when 'telling' eye contact is made), my sole focus is on the top's happiness and fulfillment. My success is measured by what he gets out of the encounter, and as a bottom, I expect absolutely nothing for myself. So I pay great attention to any feedback from the top and act accordingly, with a view to achieving continuous improvement and heightening of his ecstasy. This means that from the start I will experiment kissing and touching all areas of his body, and based on how he moans, smiles and yelps, I will build up a picture of what he likes, as these are the things that I need to do.
Whilst this exploration of his body and his sexual tastes is going on however, I never forget that the top is superior and in total control, so I must never do anything where I am obstructing him from what he wants to do - which is the thing of most crucial importance (he has to be free to do everything to me he desires, and I must to everything to him that he desires also). My body is there for his use, and no other purpose. The most difficult (though also enjoyable) part of sex for me personally is when it comes to anal penetration - the most important part of the act, where the two people become as close as they can physically be - as one. It is difficult because my asshole is tight, and the top may be in a hurry to push his cock inside me, so I may experience pain and discomfort. But I will do everything I can to take that pain and discomfort without hindering the top from entering me, because his pleasure is my priority. Only in extreme circumstances would I ever ask him to stop (or ask anything of him in fact), and it would be with great regret to do so.
As I have said, I have zero expectations for what I personally will gain from the encounter. I do not expect any particular act to be carried out on me by the top and neither do I expect to climax with an orgasm. My fulfillment comes entirely in the knowledge that I have done everything in my power to satisfy the top, and that he has taken what he needs. I am eternally grateful to the top for the honour of making love with me. I am always available to be used for sex, because that is my role. So, if I meet a top, and he decides he wants to have sex, then that is his decision to make and I will gladly make love with him.
Thanks for reading, that's my perspective! And also, a big thank you to all the tops out there, I hope you're getting the pleasure and excitement that you deserve, that the bottoms you choose to make love to are doing their jobs.
Now, from a simplistic viewpoint, some may say that when two men are having sex, because they are of the same gender, they are 'the same'. But reality is far removed from this viewpoint, because in reality there will be a top and a bottom, and these two roles are (very) distinct from each other.
So as a bottom, I want to share my thoughts on tops, and the roles of both tops and bottoms.
The first thing to say is that tops are sexually superior to bottoms, without exception. And whatever differences there are between the two men - age, body type, position in society, etc. - are irrelevant. Whilst the two men are having sex, the top is superior. For example, a boss may be having sex after work with one of his male members of staff, who he has been giving orders to and been generally superior to all day in the office/factory/workshop/etc. That superiority ends, and reverses, the moment that sexual relations begin, if the staff member has assumed the top role during sex. Whilst the two are having sex, the staff member is superior and in charge, before previous order is restored once intercourse has ended.
This superiority of tops is crucially important, because for me as a bottom, it governs completely my manner and the way I act when a top is making love to me. It means that from the point we begin to touch and kiss one another (or even before then, when 'telling' eye contact is made), my sole focus is on the top's happiness and fulfillment. My success is measured by what he gets out of the encounter, and as a bottom, I expect absolutely nothing for myself. So I pay great attention to any feedback from the top and act accordingly, with a view to achieving continuous improvement and heightening of his ecstasy. This means that from the start I will experiment kissing and touching all areas of his body, and based on how he moans, smiles and yelps, I will build up a picture of what he likes, as these are the things that I need to do.
Whilst this exploration of his body and his sexual tastes is going on however, I never forget that the top is superior and in total control, so I must never do anything where I am obstructing him from what he wants to do - which is the thing of most crucial importance (he has to be free to do everything to me he desires, and I must to everything to him that he desires also). My body is there for his use, and no other purpose. The most difficult (though also enjoyable) part of sex for me personally is when it comes to anal penetration - the most important part of the act, where the two people become as close as they can physically be - as one. It is difficult because my asshole is tight, and the top may be in a hurry to push his cock inside me, so I may experience pain and discomfort. But I will do everything I can to take that pain and discomfort without hindering the top from entering me, because his pleasure is my priority. Only in extreme circumstances would I ever ask him to stop (or ask anything of him in fact), and it would be with great regret to do so.
As I have said, I have zero expectations for what I personally will gain from the encounter. I do not expect any particular act to be carried out on me by the top and neither do I expect to climax with an orgasm. My fulfillment comes entirely in the knowledge that I have done everything in my power to satisfy the top, and that he has taken what he needs. I am eternally grateful to the top for the honour of making love with me. I am always available to be used for sex, because that is my role. So, if I meet a top, and he decides he wants to have sex, then that is his decision to make and I will gladly make love with him.
Thanks for reading, that's my perspective! And also, a big thank you to all the tops out there, I hope you're getting the pleasure and excitement that you deserve, that the bottoms you choose to make love to are doing their jobs.
5 years ago
